Until the two of you have come to a consensus that you want to commit to an exclusive relationship, do not expect a commitment or commitment behavior. Don't assume that it is a committed relationship when all the signs point to a hook-up or friends with benefits relationship.You are NOT in a committed relationship until a clear statement of commitment has been expressed and the terms have been mutually agreed upon.20/20 love vision is accomplished by reading the signs and seeing what's really there instead of settling for smoke and mirrors and what you want to see.
And, thankfully, there is a smaller subset of lasting and "till death do you part" relationships sealed by a lifetime commitment and marriage.
You don't spend your first day of school planning the graduation party or senior prom. If you enter first grade with only graduation on your mind you're going to miss all the snacks, naps, education, plays, summer breaks, getting your first locker in middle school, your first crush, your second crush and your third.
You are going to miss getting sent to the principal's office, pranks, practical jokes, cheerleader and volleyball tryouts, winning the spelling bee and getting all A's on your report card.
Bottom line..expect commitment behavior when one has not been clearly established. Entering each relationship thinking it will lead to marriage Each relationship has a reason, season and a lesson attached to it.
Some relationships come to teach you things you need to know before you find "the one." Then, of course, there are those that help you identify what you want and don't want in a relationship.
There's a lot of learning that occurs between first grade and graduation and there's a lot of living, loving and learning between the first date and the wedding date. Think of it as an adventure and if it doesn't lead to a wedding day, you will have had fun along the way and hopefully some great stories to share. Seeing what you want to see instead of what's there.