It also led me to the profession of creativity coaching, which has led to good things for me and the clients I coach. I hope they help you understand more about creator’s depression and how creativity coaching can help.As part of my certification with the Creativity Coaching Association, I re-read in 2015 and wrote a response to it. In the “gestalt” of this book, what new ideas or added value did this book teach you about creativity as applied to yourself?Some individuals knowingly invalidate others as a form of manipulation, control, and psychological injury.Possible explanations (other than psychopathy) are: a low capacity for empathy and compassion, not understanding or valuing the importance of validation, and/or not knowing how to express it effectively. The well-intentioned invalidators often defend that the goal is to help someone feel better or differently — to an emotion they judge as a more accurate, more valid one.
This may give the unspoken message that the feelings are not okay.Validation is a critical communication tool and expression of love and acceptance in relationships. What’s scary, it can be one of the most subtle and unintentional abuses.So critical in fact, that parenting experts report that it’s one of the most important things a parent can do to foster healthy psychological development in their children (Read: The Power of Validation by Karyn D. Denying someone’s feelings and emotional experience can make them feel like they’re going crazy!This may allow the person to feel heard, understood, and soften the intensity so the person may then move forward.And for you, it allows you to be there for another person in a way that will be most helpful, takes the pressure off you to solve the problems and brings about more intimacy within the relationship because you were able to “be there” for someone you care about.When we can validate feelings we are able to show empathy to the other person.