Dating before becoming exclusive

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It’s totally normal to want to hedge your bets and hold off for a while, though – you don’t want to come across as pushy, and everyone moves at different speeds.

However, if it gets to a stage where you think you’re being taken for a ride, just talk to them.

OK, so you’ve navigated the world of online dating, read hundreds of profiles, sent countless messages, been on a handful of dates.

And then it happens, the most terrifying thing of all: you meet someone you actually really like, and that’s where the real difficulty begins.

Some prefer to stay monogamous from the start, while others like to keep their options open, just as some view sex as something to be saved until the blossoming of a full-on relationship, while others need it early on to determine levels of chemistry and attraction.

The key is to be honest in your intentions without being bossy about the behaviour you expect from the man or woman you’re seeing.

You can see it there on the horizon – the whole “So where’s this going? The dating game has changed dramatically, and while it used to be as simple as a quick conversation along the lines of “OK, so we like each other, let’s make this official”, there is now a list of new stages in a fledgling relationship that can seem to make things more confusing.

Everything has become a little ill-defined, and I wouldn’t be surprised if you’ve asked yourself these kinds of questions: The early stages of dating should be when you’re having the most fun of all, so don’t let things worry you, because really this is when you should be running through parks holding hands and making slushy PDAs on the tube.

Obviously there are always exceptions to this rule – bad past relationships or life priorities outside of dating can always delay things – but the undeniable truth is that if someone wants to be with you, they won’t make excuses not to be.

The best-case scenario is that they’ll want to be with you; the worst is that they don’t and they’re still seeing other people.

Either way it’s a win, because if the latter is the case, you’re far better off knowing the truth and getting out of there…

This is very personal thing and depends on the maturity of the individuals involved. I actually asked my wife to marry me after only a month and we have been married almost 20 years. You have to analyze each situation on its own merits.

At the end of the day, you have to listen to your gut.

There really shouldn’t be any need to rush into anything – however, it’s important to be realistic.

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