I have had several long term relationships and, if one were to judge the number of contacts made and dates gone on, then I've been rather "successful" with the internet dating.I am an American that has lived and worked in London for just over four years as a literary agent.I completely disagree with the idea that suggesting a second date would seem 'too forward' I suspect it may often be the only way to get anywhere.The absence of a 'spark' that you mentioned could be because they interpret your behaviour as cool or uptight (how's that for reversing stereotypes? Also, because 'dating' is not part of British culture, a lot of men view dates as a one-off interview and if by the end of it they don't think they will fall in love you, or sleep with you they don't see any point in asking you out again.In the US I was very successful with men, but here it seems that though I have long dates that go on for hours with laughter, interesting conversation, and sometimes even a kiss, the men never want to see me again!The problem is that I never seem - at least in Britain - to be able to get past the first date!Most people go out in groups in pubs and bars and when somebody is attracted to someone, they stay behind together and chat, eventually someone plucks up the courage to kiss the other one (usually this phase is aided by copious amount of alcohol, so that if rejected they can explain themselves by saying they were drunk), and after this happens a few times they call themselves a couple.I realise this may be hard to believe but if you ask any British women who have been in a serious relationship for the last 4-5 years they'll tell you -most people don't remember ever having been on a date and certainly not more than one or two.
Clearly, not being asked out by them a second time is not a great loss.But the trend seems to be that I will let a few days go by, then drop a text or email thanking him for the date - I won't suggest another date myself, as I have been told that is too forward for British men - only to be told "I didn't feel that spark" or something similar. I'm not a supermodel, but I'm also fairly attractive.I am 5'3" tall with long dark hair and a size 12 - just as pretty and about the same size as most women walking around London. That is the only thing that is starting to make sense, which is of course not helping with the confidence issues developing from all of these first-date only experiences.they very much notice and curious about skin colour, accent, hair colour, you name it.American people are very exposed to diversity and America really emphasises that "diversity", that's why we hear such terms as Asian American, African american, Mexican american, which is politically wrong, they are just simply American.It could also be that while you are excellent company when you are with your friends, when you are on a date you are nervous and behave quite differently.